I'm always "Thinking" about what's next in my relationship. How can I communicate better with my mate and how to interact with him without it being consider, "NAGGING!" Relationships require a full time position of learning, understanding, respecting, and bridging the gap from prior relationships that we hold consciously and it stirs things up and becomes broader and discouraging. Nonetheless, it's a work in progress and we must struggle to make it work; however, I don't believe that it should be so hard. Why is it so easy to meet and hard to find a common ground? You know why it's hard? We become settled in our ways and are stubborn to let go and let change relieve us of past burdens. Everyone is believed to have a motive or unable to be themselves because you're ready to critique the moment something goes wrong. Learn to let go and you will see how any relationship that you're in will grow and blossom with time. Take time to smell the roses and really get to know what the true meaning of mate is and maybe we can work on others, but now lets sit back and work on us...
Love and let love - Learn to Let Go...
Stephanie
ReplyDeleteThe merging of two different personalities is hard for a people, but is possible with the right person. The first couple of years I like to call “puppy love” in the relationship. The extra steps to communicate have to be taken by both parties in a relationship. The hard part in the relationship is getting to know and understand your mate in a relationship. The communication is an ongoing work in process and should never stop for the relationship to prosper. I truly understand that men and women have a problem in communication and it’s not until we are in a loving long time relationship, when we you have to learn how to communicate with the opposite sex. I hate talking with my wife about the same subjects and it took her only two years to understand. It is times when I have to listen to her talk about subjects I consider to be pointless, because I am a male. We both like the same sports besides for basketball. The letting go of being stubborn I agree is a key for a relationship to grow. There are rewards of having a mate as your best friend is very specials and unique.
Stephanie! I agree! Why is it so hard?! I actually bicker... almost endlessly with my boyfriend (I really do love him..) about everything. We joke that we are functional in our dysfunction. And I ask him alllll the time... shouldn't this be easier?? It just doesn't seem like this should be sooo much work!! But it is. And thats that I guess. I think that MAYBE...looking back... the relationships that weren't so much work also didn't work out. Its hard work with my boyfriend because I want it to work and its not the easiest thing merging two lives. One of my friends said that the bickering and pushing (not literal) is just our passion. I love him so much and I know that this is it but sometimes I really just want to punch him. :) I won't though.
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